Little Angels and Miniature Devils

by 21stcenturymummy on May 5, 2010

It’s a Mummy’s Life’s recent post on The Scream-y Cry-y Thing inspired me to write about on my experience of my terrible, I mean GORGEOUS two year old.

I thought I’d got off lightly with the terrible twos. After speaking to people with older children/grown up children, I was dreading this particular period of my daughter’s life. Yet, apart from the odd tantrum, we’d got off lightly and my two year old has pretty much been a little angel. That is, until the last two weeks (she’s two and a half). Forget drama queen, she has become some sort of miniature devil reincarnated with her tantrums coming thick and fast. This is obviously what everyone means by the terrible twos!

Here’s an example. This morning she wanted a snack before leaving for nursery (dry cereal). She has breakfast there anyway. Because I didn’t give her milk with it, all hell broke lose. She sat at the bottom of the stairs screaming “I want Milk” at the top of her voice and threw herself on the floor. (We have always had an endless struggle trying to stop my daughter eating everything in site!)

Another example, I let her watch two episodes of Ben and Holly. She wanted to watch a third and because I said no, there was a repeat of the above.

She gets in such a tizzy and I dread to think what the neighbours think when they hear her screaming – it does sound like she’s having a limb amputated. It’s hard witnessing these tantrums and even though I try to keep calm, I often get frustrated, bemused or irritated, sometimes having to stop myself screaming back! She can’t be reasoned with so I often ignore her and go upstairs to escape the screaming, although it can make things worse. After a while I usually go to her and give her a hug to calm her down as she gets in such a state and has generally forgotten why she’s having a tantrum.

I have been told the best thing is to explain you are going into a different room and that they can come and find you when they calm down.

I hope that this is just a normal part of being two. Here’s also hoping this is just a really short phase!!!

Apparently it’s the traumatic threes we should be dreading (when they learn to answer back!).

What was your experience like of the ‘terrible twos’, is it worse when they get to three? It would be helpful to know how other mums dealt with tantrums.

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itsamummyslife May 5, 2010 at 12:59 pm

Its so hard isn’t it. There’s just no reasoning with them. This morning I had to leave her in the living room whilst I just sat in the kitchen with the baby and had breakfast. There was literally nothing else I could do. At 6am it’s quite hardcore! Anyway my friend says the same about the traumatic threes. Oh well!!

21stcenturymum May 5, 2010 at 8:15 pm

Ugh! That sounds terrible, I can’t wake up at 6am let alone deal with a tantrum.

scribblingmum May 5, 2010 at 7:22 pm

Miss L is four now and we are seeing less and less tantrums… For us it was a heady combination of being really aware of rewarding good behaviour, sticker chart combined with a pick from the treat bag if she did like 3 days no tantrum on the trot, (pretending to) ignore and finally time out!! Consistency, not holding a grudge and kissing afterwards are all important too. I wish you luck, it won’t last forever promise :)

angelsandurchinsblog May 6, 2010 at 6:13 pm

Aargh! Two seconds ago: ‘Please wipe my bottom’ (how very nice and polite, what a charming child). One second ago: ‘You used loo roll! Noooooo’. There really is no reasoning with them at times. Bleurgh.

itsmygoodlife May 7, 2010 at 8:01 am

Ahh, The joy of toddlers.

Little Man was decidedly easy. :s It’s now he’s 4 going on 14 that our troubles have started, he’s VERY strong-willed and VERY VERY stroppy.

I’ve yet to have experience with a girl toddler (but I do so hope that she remains as she is now.)

21stcenturymum May 8, 2010 at 7:50 pm

Is it true boys are harder than girls?

itsmygoodlife May 8, 2010 at 8:50 pm

I know Dot has been easier than Little Man was at the same ages.

But I also know I’ve been very lucky with both of mine so far.

My Mum who just had me and my brother says she found me a lot easier, so I guess yes, boys are harder than girls.

(Ask me again when Dot is a teenager!) 😉 lol

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