What Makes A Bad Mother?

by 21stcenturymummy on August 12, 2010

Sometimes I feel like the worst mother in the world. I get consumed with guilt because…

I’m not the most patient person in the world

I do occasionally shout or get cross

I let my 2 year old watch Finding Nemo – I had forgotten it’s actually quite scary!

I couldn’t be a stay at home mum

I send her to nursery 2 days a week

I did let her watch TV for an extra hour this week (so I could get on top of the tidying)

I’m too strict

I’m not strict enough

I use my Blackberry/Laptop too much sometimes

I get exhausted

I like a glass of wine or 2 in the evening

I like having time to myself every now and then

I don’t believe breast-feeding is always best

I can’t do it all by myself (I have a cleaner!)

I make things up as I go along

I don’t always get it right

Then I think about what really makes a bad mum

The ones that spend the entire day shouting, screaming and swearing at their children (like the one I can hear all day from my window)

The ones whose children have to watch whilst they get drunk or do drugs

The ones that hit their children, neglect them or abuse them

The ones that let other people hit, neglect or abuse their children

The ones that leave children to fend for themselves, when they are simply too young

The ones that don’t teach their children the difference between right or wrong

The ones that don’t give their children any love

The ones that don’t do their best to be the best mum they can be

I’m not the perfect mother, but I try my very best to be the best mum in the world.

Next time you think you’re being a bad mum, which I know we all do from time to time, have a think, are you really?