Bonding over milkshake and chips

by admin on April 17, 2013

Mother And Daughter bonding, Painting by Natalia Tejera


School holidays are finally over. (That wasn’t me you saw dancing with joy as I put Miss C on the school bus this morning.) Life will return to normal and I can attack my ever-increasing list of things to do and pile of papers that have built up over the last month. Luckily Miss C was desperate to go back to school, mainly to show off her new flashing black school shoes. (Thanks Granny and Grandpa for that.)

Last week, I made a special effort to spend some ‘quality’ time together, just me and her. I think she sometimes feels a bit neglected as her boisterous little sister is often the focus of my attention, or I’m busy writing some article or other, so she’s palmed off onto our maid who takes her to the playground. The advantage of being an expat mum living in Singapore, is that I can hand her over to our maid if I have something to do. The problem with being a mother, is that you feel guilty, no matter what you do. My guilt is that I don’t spend enough time with her, so I decided to organise a mother-daughter bonding day out.

First up, a ‘Mummy and me’ pedicure at Buff and Rubz on Robertson Quay. Not the best one I’ve ever had, but still. After lengthy deliberation she went for the brightest, bluest colour possible, I gritted my teeth, having hoped she’d go for an inoffensive shade of pale pink. But, there was no chance of that, as she had denounced all things pink earlier in the week. Having forgotten to bring flip flops, I let her walk on bare feet to avoid ruining the polish with her closed toe shoes, and she proudly flashed her little blue tootsies as we walked down the road.

Then we headed to Boomarang for a chips and milkshake treat, temporarily halting my healthy eating drive (all in the name of bonding).

It was nice to be able to focus 100% on Miss C for once. She’s so smart and cute and funny, and I love that we can have proper conversations now. I felt more connected to her after our day together and she enjoyed it too (I think).  It’s made me realise how important it is to make this a regular thing, and to spend one on one time with her. I recently read somewhere that if you have a close relationship with your kids in the early years, you’re more likely to stay close to them when they become teenagers and older. If this is true, then it’s important to put the effort in now.

Perhaps next time we’ll bond over shopping and sushi.

What do you do to bond with your  daughters (or sons)?


Image: Mother and Daughter by Natalia Tejera